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We all think we can set boundaries. But what do you do when people try everything they can think of to knock them right back down?
You can put up a fence or two, but keeping them up shouldn’t require bloodshed
Apparently, if there are lovers, family, friends or co-workers who walk all over us, sucking our precious time and energy with outrageous demands or bad behaviour, we can fix the problem simply by putting a few parameters in place. Sounds simple, right?
Setting Boundaries Not as Easy as it Looks
What we sometimes don’t hear is that the type of people you need to set boundaries with in the first place are the same ones who will hardly take them lying down.
Think about it. If you’re sighing, eye-rolling, pointedly looking at your watch, or otherwise broadcasting cues any normal person would get and it hasn’t made your tormenter back off, what makes you think explicitly announcing that you’ll no longer stop to chat during work hours will do it?
Expect Resistance
When you set a boundary, expect resistance. Forewarned is forearmed, so be wary of the top five ways your toxic friend, friendly boss, soul-sucking sister or other boundary bounder will try to sabotage your newly created fences.
Top 5 Boundary Resisters and How to Handle Them
Here’s the good news: you’re nearly there. While you can expect to be tested by boundary bounders, if you foil all these attempts at sabotage, your boundaries may actually win some respect, and who knows, you may get that uninterrupted hour to work after all.